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Increase Intimacy and Kick Your Porn Addiction |
If you're into porn your not into intimacy. Think of intimacy as
In-To-Me-See. When you are intimate you allow another person to see the
"real you." You make a connection and you share who you are.
The reason it's difficult to be intimate is because of your low
self-worth and lack of self-confidence. You fear if people really knew
how terrible you were they wouldn't like you.
Give others a chance! You are your own worst enemy. You are judging you
not others. You are a worthwhile and wonderful person. Your past doesn't
matter.
If you want to kick your porn addiction it's necessary to get honest
with yourself and others. Admit you need help. 40 million people are
addicted to porn. You aren't alone.
The next time your with another person--friend, lover, or family member,
share your attention with them. Become interested in who they are. Talk.
Listen. Give them a chance to accept and appreciate you.
Other ways to become intimate are:
Appreciate the person you are with.
Silently think about their good traits.
Make others feel special by listening and making eye contact.
Remind yourself that you love this person.
Look at them through loving eyes.
Apologize when you are wrong.
Thing good thoughts of this person.
Pray for this person.
Rant and rave about this person's good qualities to others.
Know that you are worthy of love and loving connections. Intimacy isn't
scary. It's learned and then practiced.
Porn leaves you feeling empty and wanting. True intimacy fills you up
like nothing else can. Connection is one thing everyone craves and
needs.
You might feel uncomfortable. Everyone does. Take small steps. You can
do this and you'll be happier when you do!
Learn to trust yourself. The
more intimate you are the more comfortable you become.
Be generous. Learn to gift your partner.
Gifting your lover will strengthen your intimacy.
Learn to be a giver. Have fun with it!
Tess Marshall has a master's
degree in counseling psychology and a specialty in addictions. She has
over 15 years of study, research and experience in empowering people to
grow personally, build authentic relationships, and live free from addiction. |
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