Are You Ready for a Change? 

1. Porn addicts think they want freedom from porn but often don’t want to listen to what they need to hear. Are you really willing to give up your own best thinking? A recovery slogan is, “Your best thinking got you where you are today.”

2. Before recovery pornography is your top priority, in order to live a life-style of sobriety your new No.1 priority is to do what it takes to give up your porn addiction learn

1) from a therapist
2) a support group,
3) an accountability partner
4) a sponsor and others who have been where you are and will teach you a new way of thinking and acting.
Are you really ready to do that?

3. As long as you think you are in control you will stay in the rut you’re in today, your porn addiction.

4. You can’t do this alone. You need God and other people. Period.

Even if you quit porn and masturbation on your own you would still have the thinking of an addict.

This is where the term “dry drunk” comes from, someone who quit drinking but still thinks and acts like an addict.

5. One reason you need to go to counseling is because it’s necessary to heal unhealed childhood wounds. You may not even be aware of them. Instead you kill your pain with pornography
 

You will remain on the pity pot blaming others or yourself for you porn addiction and circumstances in life until you get help.

If you don’t heal them your wounds will give you an excuse to continue “acting out.”

Blaming others is an excuse. When it’s someone else’s fault you don’t have to change.
 

Blaming yourself is “self-pity.” It keeps you in your addiction.

Ask yourself, “Do you want to focus on poor me and blame or do you want to focus on taking back your freedom and your life?”

6. When you refuse to take the action needed to recover know that you aren’t ready to give up your addictive life style. Stop kidding yourself.

7. The new “F” word is forgiveness. Ask God to help you forgive yourself and others.

9. Before taking seeking out porn today ask, “Is this the best thing I can do for myself?” Listen for an answer.

Know that you are worthy of freedom, you deserve a better life. You are OK and people want to help you.